In the past 3-4 weeks or so, I’ve had an increasing number of comments along the lines of, “Wow, you’re in great shape considering you recently had a baby!”
It’s led me to wonder, why is there the assumption that women in general lose their pre-pregnancy figures? I suppose it’s because a lot of women don’t regain their figures after having a baby. Dare I even say most? I really have no idea what the statistics are.
When I think about my own mindset, however, I realise that it never occurred to me that I would not return to my pre-pregnancy size. Prior to getting pregnant, I certainly had some fears about my post pregnant body, but what I feared was how difficult it could be to achieve it, not that it wouldn’t happen.
Yes, I was fully aware that it would take some focus and hard work on my part. Weight loss has never come easy to me. So I was pleasantly surprised at how easily it did come off over the past few months (thank you Lily, you helped a great deal with this one!).
Sure, there are aspects of our post-partum figures that remain out of our control, for example how many stretch marks (I used Bio-Oil religiously and still ended up with some!), and something to do with the chest area… hopefully nothing that a good bra can’t fix, lol. But we do have control over the weight part of it.
Here are some strategies that I employed to help me keep my eye on the goal of returning to my pre-pregnancy weight. Different ones helped at different times, particularly when I was feeling a bit down (e.g. if I’d just gone a full month without any weight loss):
#1 If you are planning, trying or currently pregnant, keep in mind that the more weight you put on, the more you will have to lose afterwards.
That is not to say that you should obsess over weight gain – far from it! This article gives a great overview on the topic of weight gain during pregnancy, including additional caloric requirements and guidelines for healthy amounts of weight gain during pregnancy. Ultimately, that is the goal – to gain a healthy amount of weight during your pregnancy, not too little and not too much!
#2 After giving birth, I kept one pair of my pre-pregnancy jeans handy.
Every few weeks I’d try and put them on… it helped me to see that I was gradually losing the weight. In fact, there were months where I seemed to lose very little to no weight at all, and yet my pre-pregnancy jeans fit better. How clothes fit you is, in my opinion, actually a better indication of progress than your weight on the scales, because you might still expect to see quite large weight fluctuations at times whilst your hormones continue to settle down and your body works to establish a regular milk supply for your baby.
#3 Don’t get too comfy in your maternity clothes.
I aimed to get into “regular” clothes within several months after giving birth. That didn’t mean I could fit my pre-pregnancy jeans yet, however I did have a pair of non-maternity jeans a size up from my pre-pregnancy ones. Maternity clothes (especially pants) are designed with comfort in mind, which means the waistbands are soft and stretchy! But going back to not-so-soft, non-stretchy waistbands meant I was not allowed to get too comfortable and stay that way. Being slightly uncomfortable gave me a reminder of the task I had at hand to get back into shape.
#4 Enlist the help/support of a trusted friend/family member or two.
None of my weight loss achievements would have been possible without the support of my husband. He was the one pushing me out the front door when I was tempted to stay home and skip the gym because Lily was fussing and crying. e was the one that encouraged me when I hopped on the scales and got discouraged by the results (yes, I know I just said that the fit of clothing is a better measure of progress than a scale reading but I can’t help myself, I may be a fitness instructor but I’m human too!). He was the one that voluntarily didn’t have dessert every night so that I wouldn’t be alone watching him eat whilst I went without. I wish I could give you motivating lines like, “If you put your mind to it, you can do anything you want!” – but I’m more of a believer that no human being is an island, and two heads are better than one!
#5 Find a workout partner.
For me, this is probably not so essential because I find myself in the situation where I am the instructor of the class, so I have to turn up each week whatever my circumstances! However I have also been getting in extra walks by meeting up regularly with one of the other Mums from my Mother’s Group. Not only do we get some exercise, we also benefit from the social aspect of walking together. And our girls love their morning outings in their prams too!
#6 Break it down.
If you have six kilos to lose, rather than stare the six kilos in the face, break it down into, say, one kilo per month. It’s much more manageable that way and less daunting than looking at the weight as a whole. Plus it is better to evaluate and make changes based on your progress on a monthly basis, than to, say, check up with yourself after six months only to realize you’ve gotten nowhere and lost half a year in the process!